It’s kind of amazing. I wrote a post a while back about how introverts are not privileged in the USA. I wrote about ways in which introverts are cool and don’t get as much credit as they should and why introverts might not be the USA’s idea of perfect citizens. But quite a few extroverts who responded only read the post from a “How does this affect me?” standpoint. Numerous comments claimed “You said extroverts are [x], you are prejudiced for saying that” where [x] equals the opposite of something I said about introverts.
You know what that’s exactly like? It’s exactly like when I write a post about women and how awesome women can be and how we don’t always get the credit we deserve and male commenters flood in with “You said men suck, you are prejudiced.”
Of course, privilege leads people to unconsciously assume everything the less privileged ever say is a dig at them. Privileged men read claims that Women Are Cool Too and get nothing out of it but “Hey, this bitch isn’t worshiping my cock! How could she be so cruel! Mommy and Daddy promised me everyone would worship my gorgeous cock!” The extroverts in that thread are reading a post that basically describes how Introverts Are Cool Too and getting nothing out of it but “Hey, where’s the extrovert worship I’ve been promised everywhere I go all my life?”
Thanks, guys. I never could have demonstrated your privilege better with any amount of writing. You put on a great show for the benefit of everyone trying to examine their own privilege.
To be clear, here are the actual things I actually said about extroverts in the original article:
- “Extroverts are people who need external stimulation from others.” One commenter wanted to quibble over the definition, which is okay, but for some reason she took it as an insult, which I’m still not getting. What is so insulting about saying someone needs external stimulation (from others, or from whatever, per her definition)?
- “They’re more often in output mode than input, while extroverts are the other way around.” They meaning introverts.
- “Introverts are less likely to engage in damaging relationships because they’re content to be alone.” Oddly, no one took offense at this, which is surprising, since with this comparison I am contending extroverts are more likely to put up with unhealthy relationships for the sake of not being alone. I anticipated this being controversial, but apparently it was not. Oooookay.