Comments on: For being effective, you are sentenced to…

By: Casey

Casey — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 22:59:48 +0000

WAT

That…that’s just…FUCKBALLS

By: The Other Anne

The Other Anne — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 22:13:00 +0000

I yawned the other day in a store and some guy said, “Don’t do that!” to me. I was like, wtf? I need to. I can’t help it. And fuck you for telling me not to.

By: Casey

Casey — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:31:22 +0000

I’ve even used that point before, but then some ass-butt stuck their nose in to say “ZOMG I’M A MAN AND SOMEBODY (an old woman) TOLD ME TO SMILE ONCE ON THE STREET BECAUSE I WAS FROWNING BECAUSE MY DAD DIED SO I WAS DEPRESSED AND I KNOW HOW IT FEEEEELZ BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU SHOULD JUST TAKE IT THEY’RE ONLY BEING NICE DON’CHA KNOW.”
You can’t win for losing sometimes.

By: Gategrrl

Gategrrl — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 18:06:04 +0000

OMG. Yes, that conversation. I’m going to have to remind my daughter to tell anyone who tells her smile to go fuck off. I really don’t think jerks who tell women or small children to smile would dare tell another man to put a smile on their face.

By: Casey

Casey — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 09:51:27 +0000

It’s just ridiculous, especially since most of my friend’s DA IDs are pictures of them looking deliberately frowny/emo/wangsty and I’ve never read anybody telling them to not look so sad…it isn’t even someone frowning in REAL TIME! IT IS A PHOTO OF A PRIOR EVENT.
I got into a more heated argument with that guy using most of the points you’ve just illustrated, but then the fuck-head tried to turn things around on me and claim I was “butt-hurt” and he was being needlessly attacked and kept insisting “I’M JUST TRYING TO HELP IMPROVE YOUR LIVE, YOU CAN CHOOSE TO IGNORE MY OPINION OR TAKE IT TO HEART, I’M JUST SAYING!!” Well I told him “It’s also your choice to not even give the unwarranted advice in the first place!”

UGH. (I ended up blocking him but REALLY~!? COME ON!!)

By: Jennifer Kesler

Jennifer Kesler — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 06:05:33 +0000

Oy – somewhere on Hathor, I think, we got into a discussion about strangers who advise you to smile. I can’t even remember all the points we made about how rude and privileged it is to do that. But among them: (a) maybe I AM grumpy, and so what? You’re not entitled to my putting on a performance so you can keep up your delusions that everyone’s so happy? (b) Maybe I’m not grumpy, but I’m focused or I have a headache, so a carefree grin would take misery-making effort just now. (c) Don’t fucking give orders to strangers. I mean, you’re just inviting them to order you to shoot yourself. It’s none of your business whether they smile.

By: Casey

Casey — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 06:00:10 +0000

“Smile! It’s not so bad!”

Someone said that to me about my FUCKING DEVIANT ART ID. It’s a picture of me sitting in a recliner chair on my friend’s porch with my right hand on my temple and I’m smirking wryly (it’s slightly reminiscent of that photo of Oscar Wilde).
Some douche-nozzle posted “Smile more, it’s good for you physiologically.” I called him out on his “telling girls to smile when no one asked” bullshit and he called me “grumpy” and he just wanted to “help [me] improve my life, because [he] sees a gorgeous, wonderful young woman who’s not living life as she should”.

JUST FUCKING FUCK OOOOOFFFFFFFFFF ALREADY, GODDAMN

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 02:45:14 +0000

That’s the ticket. Act like a man to be taken seriously, but if you do you’re going to be marked as a “cold bitch” one way or another. If you’re lucky, you have female friends who know exactly what you do. If you’re not you best get used to that subtle social isolation polite people give to those who do not meet their unconscious social criteria. Or the outright hostility from those who see you as overstepping your bounds.

What I find very, very odd is that somehow feminism seems to have been made entirely into a joke amongst my generation. The feeling I get talking to other 20-25 year olds is that while women can hold certain jobs and do “manly” things, we really aren’t as good at it. Now people just use “science” as the reason. It’s ok, evolution made you weak and less confrontational! Don’t mind it, embrace being mostly second class! At least you have a close knit circle of girl friends, right? Nature gave you that!

Never mind the fact that it’s science being twisted to fit whatever it is we want to say. Rather like when News companies change between percentages and gross numbers to spin their stories correctly. 47% of people polled may be 200 people, and $2,000,000.00 in damages may be less than 1% of whatever total they’re talking about. Fact twisting! UGH!

By: Jennifer Kesler

Jennifer Kesler — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 05:00:19 +0000

Never mind acting basically like guys act – simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash.

Word. Even just looking serious and thoughtful instead of giddy invites complete strangers to advise a woman, “Smile! It’s not so bad!” as if to say her pretty little head shouldn’t be worried by those thought thingies that men have.

By: Liz

Liz — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 03:30:40 +0000

There’s the flip side too – the horrible awareness of all the placatory gestures other women are constantly using. Never mind acting basically like guys act – simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash.