Comments on: For being effective, you are sentenced to… http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/ so you think you don't have any Sat, 04 Sep 2010 04:36:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jennifer Kesler http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-966 Jennifer Kesler Sun, 07 Sep 2008 05:00:19 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-966 <i>Never mind acting basically like guys act - simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash.</i> Word. Even just looking serious and thoughtful instead of giddy invites complete strangers to advise a woman, "Smile! It's not so bad!" as if to say her pretty little head shouldn't be worried by those thought thingies that men have. Never mind acting basically like guys act – simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash.

Word. Even just looking serious and thoughtful instead of giddy invites complete strangers to advise a woman, “Smile! It’s not so bad!” as if to say her pretty little head shouldn’t be worried by those thought thingies that men have.

]]> By: Liz http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-965 Liz Sun, 07 Sep 2008 03:30:40 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-965 There's the flip side too - the horrible awareness of all the placatory gestures other women are constantly using. Never mind acting basically like guys act - simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash. There’s the flip side too – the horrible awareness of all the placatory gestures other women are constantly using. Never mind acting basically like guys act – simply refusing to engage in the placatory feminine gestures and speech habits marks a woman down for the backlash.

]]> By: Liz http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-964 Liz Sun, 07 Sep 2008 03:28:32 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/for-being-effective-you-are-sentenced-to/#comment-964 This has also been my experience. Doing it is great; dealing with the aftermath is horrible. This has also been my experience. Doing it is great; dealing with the aftermath is horrible.

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