Comments on: Niceness privilege http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/ so you think you don't have any Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:35:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jennifer Kesler http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1230 Jennifer Kesler Mon, 10 May 2010 16:36:16 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1230 LOL, go for it! LOL, go for it!

]]> By: Aconite http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1227 Aconite Mon, 10 May 2010 08:05:12 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1227 Hey, I've been reading through your archives and came across this post only recently. <i>"See all evil, hear all evil, fight all evil"</i> Jennifer, I hope you don't mind but I am going to have that motto tattooed somewhere on my personage! =D Hey, I’ve been reading through your archives and came across this post only recently.

“See all evil, hear all evil, fight all evil”

Jennifer, I hope you don’t mind but I am going to have that motto tattooed somewhere on my personage! =D

]]> By: Adam http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1174 Adam Wed, 24 Mar 2010 06:21:59 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1174 Very well put. When I was first dealing with memories of horrendous abuse, I learned the hard way that 99% of people DON'T want to hear it. Even one's friends. Very well put. When I was first dealing with memories of horrendous abuse, I learned the hard way that 99% of people DON’T want to hear it. Even one’s friends.

]]> By: Genevieve http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1167 Genevieve Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:46:58 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1167 As Bikini Kill sang: "I'm so sorry if I'm alienating some of you/your whole fucking culture alienates me." I always thought those lyrics were really powerful and true, because there's no way to dismantle oppressive power structures without alientating/offending people, being "angry," "not nice," "improper," et cetera. We're allowed to be pissed off when we're being pissed on. This post is oool, I like it. As Bikini Kill sang: “I’m so sorry if I’m alienating some of you/your whole fucking culture alienates me.” I always thought those lyrics were really powerful and true, because there’s no way to dismantle oppressive power structures without alientating/offending people, being “angry,” “not nice,” “improper,” et cetera. We’re allowed to be pissed off when we’re being pissed on.

This post is oool, I like it.

]]> By: Kascendant http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1163 Kascendant Fri, 05 Mar 2010 06:55:09 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-1163 I know this is a very old post, but I stumbled across it and wanted to thank you for writing it. This was a day I needed reminding that the lovely people who look at you, appalled and awkward and horrified or exasperated, when you throw a flag on the worship of someone who did something evil, may be the "nice" guys, but they aren't the good guys. I know this is a very old post, but I stumbled across it and wanted to thank you for writing it.

This was a day I needed reminding that the lovely people who look at you, appalled and awkward and horrified or exasperated, when you throw a flag on the worship of someone who did something evil, may be the “nice” guys, but they aren’t the good guys.

]]> By: Purtek http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-599 Purtek Tue, 30 Oct 2007 11:04:37 +0000 http://whatprivilege.com/niceness-privilege/#comment-599 <i>“Nice” people think it’s rude when, after they’ve nosed into someone’s personal business with the question “Why don’t you love Christmas like nice people do?” and the person tells the all-too-common truth: “Because my family always had knock-down drag-out fights on Christmas”.</i> I've been running through this type of "privilege" in my head a lot lately, and I'll likely write something about it myself soon. It's another layer of blaming the victim, really--the person who is being 'unseemly' is the person who calls out the crappy behaviour, the person who refuses to stay silent about the bullshit that's being thrown about, the person who reveals the illusions for what they are. Missing the point on the 'who started it' issue. I like your motto. I want to steal it. “Nice” people think it’s rude when, after they’ve nosed into someone’s personal business with the question “Why don’t you love Christmas like nice people do?” and the person tells the all-too-common truth: “Because my family always had knock-down drag-out fights on Christmas”.

I’ve been running through this type of “privilege” in my head a lot lately, and I’ll likely write something about it myself soon. It’s another layer of blaming the victim, really–the person who is being ‘unseemly’ is the person who calls out the crappy behaviour, the person who refuses to stay silent about the bullshit that’s being thrown about, the person who reveals the illusions for what they are. Missing the point on the ‘who started it’ issue.

I like your motto. I want to steal it.

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