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Privilege means never having to explain why it doesn’t work for Others
One of the most annoying privilege memes I've ever dealt with is "Anyone can get rich in this great country; if they don't, it means they're just not working hard enough." I encountered this meme almost daily as a kid growing up in a highly conservative "red state"...
Extroversion privilege
(This post has a definite US slant, simply because that's the only country whose culture I've experienced firsthand. I suspect it's different elsewhere - feel free to comment.)
This all started from a comment made by DNi on my post, Personal Privilege List. I...
Non-survivor privilege and silence
While it shouldn't be a privilege to escape abuse in this life, there are trappings of privilege for those who have been so lucky. I know it's an odd thing to say, and it's a realization I've been slowly moving toward since childhood, but it works like this:
Once...
Criticism, hostility and non-support: three different animals
If you find yourself in agreement with a dominant belief - the most popular religion in your culture, a love of the favored local sports team, or the belief that life is mostly neat and people are mostly good-hearted - you may occasionally have trouble distinguishing...
No, customer service workers do not have it easy
Every once in a while, one of my fellow Americans blows my mind with her assumption that customer service workers get insurance, paid sick days and paid vacation, and at least $10/hour. These assumptions are often of no consequence, but on some occasions they're...
by Jennifer Kesler
If you observe an abuse cycle in a family – e.g., “Mom abuses her kids because her dad abused her because his mom abused him” – you’re lucky if you can trace it back more than a few generations. Which always leaves me wondering: where did it begin? And how? Did this family have one rotten apple who decided to be an asshole even though no one had ever taught him or her assholishness?
I said in an earlier post I ...read more
by Jennifer Kesler
I generally avoid political topics, but once in a while, one of them is such a damn good example of privilege that I’m left thinking: what the fuck?
All the universal health care plans being yapped about at length by various committees within Congress (I could’ve sworn the Constitution outlined a clear procedure for proposing a bill and then voting on it that did not involve marathon committee circle jerks wherein participants vote amongst themselves and then whine to the press ...read more
by Jennifer Kesler
This is a typical conversation between a Christian and a non-believer:
Christian: Abortion/homosexuality/[insert incredibly incindiary topic here] is blah blah blah.
Atheist/agnotic: (smiles and nods)
We smile and nod because we know Christian beliefs are respected and other beliefs are not so much, and if we say something precisely as offensive/inane in response, we will be treated as if we just punched a toddler in the face. I’ve done this a number of times:
Christian: Abortion/homosexuality/[insert incredibly incindiary topic here] is blah blah blah.
Atheist/agnotic: ...read more
by Jennifer Kesler
No, I haven’t forgotten this site. I’ve been slowly making my way through a nightmare recently, and believe me, elements of what I’ve gone through will end up here, as there is a lot of privilege involved. But due to what I’ve gone through, it may be a while before I have the headspace and energy to get worthwhile articles written.
In the meantime, I’ve been thinking about a few other topics I want to write on. For example, anarchy and ...read more